I found a convicting, challenging and encouraging quote in Tim Chester’s book, A Meal with Jesus: Discovering Grace, Community, and Mission around the Table (Re:Lit)
. It made me think through my meal habits with my family. The book has been a great read and is really making me think through a lot of stuff.

“In his book, Bowling Alone
, Robert Putman reveals that there’s been a 33 percent decrease in families eating together over the last decades. And more than half of those families are watching television as they eat together. Over the same period there’s been a 45 percent decline in entertaining friends. Growing up I would ask each Sunday, “Who’s coming for dinner today?” Not whether but who, because I knew my parents always would have invited someone. “In the typical American household, the average number of dinners eaten together is three per week, with and average length of dinner being 20 minutes.” Many homes no longer even have a dining room. We protect ourselves from outsiders, but our security systems and garden gates are our prisons, cutting us off from community. Instead we get our community vicariously through soap operas. Friends is a television program or a Facebook number, not people with whom we eat and laugh and cry.” (pg. 46)
I know it may sound old fashion but I think there is more behind this statement than simply nostalgia of how it use to be. At the dinner table there is conversation, confrontation, and confidence building. We as parents have a chance to hear from our kids, they have a chance to hear from us with there being nothing else on the agenda other than eating together. With divorce rates high, children leaving the church, premarital sex, drug use etc. Maybe, just maybe, if we were intentional about eating meals with our family than our input into their lives would be more, and maybe we would have a chance to speak the gospel into their lives, allowing us to change these statics and turn them around. Not to mention if we would open our table up to those who live near us and don’t know Jesus.
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