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Jeff Vanderstelt on Parenting via Twitter

November 30, 2012

Yesterday Jeff Vanderstelt, elder at Soma Communities in Tacoma Washington, posted a string of tweets about parenting, that were very helpful. I figured I would collect them and post them here for those who do not follow him online could read and reap the benefits from.


  • Parents: Using the Consequences OF sin to get kids to stop sinning will only lead to MORE sin…
  • Parents: If you use shame on your kids you will train them to hide and deceive.
  • Parents: If you use Guilt on your kids you will train them to blame & look away from Jesus to find another atonement
  • Parents: Train up your child in the way he should go… he should go to Jesus who removes shame & guilt
  • Parents: Fear of punishment as primary motivator will train ur child 2 seek 2 avoid pain, suffering and sacrifice 4 others
  • Parents: Fear of losing ur approval will train ur child 2 live 4 the approval of others, from worshipping u to another god
  • Parents: Ur job is not to add more consequences. It is to lead ur Children to Jesus who deals w the wages of sin
  • Real consequences of sin = guilt, shame, fear of punishment, loss of trust, broken relationships. Jesus can remove and mend all of these.

Jeff recommended these books to someone who ask him for recommendations on parenting resources; Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick & Gospel-Powered Parenting by William Farley. I would recommend following Jeff on Twitter, or on Facebook.

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  • Reply Dave Moser November 30, 2012 at 6:12 pm

    “Train up your child in the way he should go… he should go to Jesus.”
    That’s just gold.

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